7 important steps to help keep your relationship Happy and to last:

1. Open up and talk to each other. Listen well to what the other says. If you don't know how to express your feelings or have poor listening skills, learn to get better at both. You can read a book, or take a class. Good communication requires both the ability to express, listen and care.

 

Job 6:24 Teach me, and I will hold my tongue: and cause me to understand wherein I have erred.

Proverbs 1:5
 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels


Pleasing and caring for each other:

1 Corinthians 7:33-34b KJV But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.

but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
 
Proverbs 9:9
Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser: teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.

Be honest and kind as you share:

Job 6:25 How forcible are right words! but what doth your arguing reprove?

 

2. If you get into a fight, don't ignore or avoid it, by running away from it. It won't get worked out that way. Do your best to resolve your first argument, as soon as it arises so you won't have the same argument for the next 50 years, in different forms. Also say, "I am sorry." Let it go and move on.

 

Colossians 3:12-13 KJV
  12Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;

 13Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

2 Peter 1:6-7 KJV

And to knowledge temperance; and to temperance patience; and to patience godliness; And to godliness brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness charity.

 

3. Remember that you love your partner; therefore, you want the best for her/him. Give her/him the benefit of the doubt when you feel angry, hurt, or disappointed. Open up and talk about it. Don't make assumptions that you think you know your spouse. Say how you feel without attacking or accusing, and care about their feelings. Be sensitive to each other, and make sure  to know, and understand each other better.

 

James 5:16
Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

 

4. Don't take your partner for granted. Tell your partner every day something you appreciate about her/him and how grateful you are to have them in your life. Don't complain all the time or nag. Have a thankful heart.

 

Titus 3:4-5 But after that the kindness and love of God our Saviour toward man appeared,

 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost

 5. Your partner should never feel like you are an enemy. If they do, something is wrong; remember--you fell in love with this person. If there's so much anger that you feel like you are enemies, you will need to get Godly counsel as

 

 

 

 

soon as possible. Telling them you are having problems with anger inside, and site down to talk about it calmly.

You can also take anger management classes which will help you be more aware how to manage your anger in the Lord. And pray about that too that the Lord help you in that area.

James 3:2
For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word,
the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.

6. Gauge your relationship. Notice and don't ignore the warning signs if you're not talking, you're less affectionate, you're fighting all the time, and you're not happy. The sooner you acknowledge you're having problems, the sooner you can begin to solve them. Agree to go through each problem on by one, and find ways to work them out together. Talking about these problems can bring some emotions so try to control the emotions so that you can talk about how to change in those areas of your life.

2 Corinthians 6:6
By pureness, by knowledge, by long suffering, by kindness, by the Holy Ghost, by love unfeigned

Joel 2:13
And rend your heart, and not your garments, and turn unto the LORD your God: for he is gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and of great kindness, and repenteth him of the evil.

 

7. Always remember that you have the power to change behaviors in your relationship through different ways. You don't have to stay stuck in unhealthy ruts. Talk and then pray about the problems and God will bring you the solutions. Concentrate on changing your own faults and this alone will help your relationship. Once one tries to change it many times helps the other change too. Allow them to change their own faults. Don't try to change them for them. Only change on your own.

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

 

Good, lasting relationships are made up of two conscious individuals who have the desire to work on themselves with the determination to stay focused on the importance of their relationship. They do not take their partner for granted. They have their partner's best interest at heart. Therefore, you will both want to build trust with each other.

1 Corinthians 4:6b
that ye might learn in us not to think of men above
that which is written, that no one of you be puffed up for one against another.

1 Peter 3:8
Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous

When arguments come up-- don't ignore them. Address the issues by talking instead of yelling. Try to resolve them. When you see warning signs in your relationship and you act immediately and look for new ways to relate to each other. You can accomplish and solve many problems by being willing to take the time and energy to make your relationship a priority. Nurture your partnershipyou both richly deserve! You can live happily ever after, not with magic, but with work, awareness, and knowledge of yourself and your partner--with God's blessing and love.


2 Timothy 2:23 But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes.

Ephesians 4:32
32And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.

James 4:6 But He gives more grace.Therefore He says;God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble

Jude 1:22
 And of some have compassion, making a difference

 

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