Husband & Wife--Both One!

By Apostle Cathryn Ndyabagye

I was studying in Lexon today, and looked up the Word ONE in greek. This is what I found:...

According to Lexon:
Strong's G4861 - sympsychos in Greek means - 1) of one mind, of one accord- This word is made up of two words syn (together with) and psychos (soul, self, inner life, or the seat of the feelings, desires, affections). So the word refers to being 'united in spirit' or harmonious (BDAG). Paul desired the Philippians to be united in their affections—one in Christ in all desires! Phl 2:2 is the only occurrence of this word in the NT. (Wayne Steury)
and authorized Version in KJV translation: AV — of one accord

In heaven we are all ONE in spirit, in spiritual bodies and so we are not flesh like in heaven as we are on earth.
I like the scriptures that tell about the spiritual gifts when it says:

1 Corinthians 12:11 KJV But all these worketh that one and the selfsame Spirit, dividing to every man severally as he will.

1 Corinthians 6:17 KJV But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.

This means everyone when it speaks of man.... For the gifts are given to the whole body. Both male and female.

The Mormons think you are married forever, even in heaven. The Bible says that we are not married in heaven.

Verse 22:30
For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.

Mark 12:25 For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage; but are as the angels which are in heaven.

Jesus was surrounded by women ministering to him and there was prophetesses in those days. Even many that were not revealed to us yet.

Jesus always had respect for both men and women and corrected men who spoke against women. Jesus stood up for women many times for Jesus was fair to all people. (Remember the lady with 5 husbands,and the lady who anointed him with expensive oil to prepare his burial?).

John 8 chapter and notice he wrote something on the ground as the men accused the lady of adultery. For they wanted to stone her. As Jesus wrote on the ground, I always wondered if he was writing all the girlfriends names of the men who were accusing the woman. Jesus simply forgave her and told her to go and sin no more. AMEN He didn't report the news in papers and gossip about her, he truly forgave her.

When Mary poured the oil she was so criticized. In John twelve and I loved how Jesus handled it in love...When he corrected the men about how they treated Mary when she poured the expensive oil on Him. The men stopped talking, and Jesus blessed her.

You can tell today, which men have the spirit of God, and those who don't. Humble men of God see woman equal to them in spirit, and they radiate love and compassion of Christ in their hearts. They actually have the same spirit that Jesus had. Not arrogant, not prideful thinking they are better. For, if we live in the Spirit we will have the same loving spirit within us. We follow the word of God about being ONE, Isn't that right?

In the Bible, it always speaks of equality. If you read about men and women in marriage is says: THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE
It didn't say the man's half was better than the wife was no good. Not only does the wife's body belong to the husband and she should please her husband, the husband's body belongs to his wife and he should please his wife too--according to scripture. So you see the equally God established for marriage so it could be ONE. Marriage was not meant to be one-sided and without the ONENESS OF GOD. :)

1 Corin. 7:32-34 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are ofthe world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

The husband's body belongs to his wife's and the wife's body belongs to the husband. Very equal in teachings. :) 1 Corinth 7 chapter 3-5. So we see it proven in scripture of equality of the husband and wife.

Instructions were given different for each, for God knows how he made men and women.

Read Col. 3:19. It says, Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

Sometimes, men tend to be harsh, and God spoke to man about how to be kind to his wife and not harsh.

God understands men and  ladies too, knows how emotional women  are. He should know, he made her this way and men too!

This was why it says that the woman was the weaker vessel--Meaning the that she is more emotional and can get her feelings hurt...Not weak in the strength of God's spirit.

Men are supposed to consider her ways and how and to care about her feelings and be tender to her. To be kind and patient with her. AMEN

1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

NOTE: Let's look at this scripture closer... After the scripture says GIVING HONOUR UNTO THE WIFE 'AS UNTO' the weaker vessel. It says 'as unto' and also says BEING HEIRS TOGETHER OF THE GRACE OF LIFE THAT YOUR PRAYERS BE NOT HINDERED.

Men,who are pastors and also, men who call themselves Christians, need to really understand these scriptures well, and know what they really mean. Many have been taught so wrong, about the Bible.

Do you really think that God wants men to be prideful and make the woman out to be less and worthless compared to him? Jesus wouldn't think of acting in such a way. The Bible NEVER teaches a person to abuse anyone. AMEN

We have to be careful not to misuse and abuse in the name of Christ. And be careful to honor our families. Spouses, and children alike.

So many focus on the words 'weaker vessel' rather than the ones I bolded above in the scripture. :) and these are the parts that are what you should focus on.

We are to acknowledge all the words in a scriptures, not just some we choose to pick out. AMEN This way we understand the whole point of what God is saying to the man's responsibility to his wife and the wife to her husaband.

Not once did God state or  put down the  lady down by the statement 'Weaker Vessel'. Think about it, GOD MADE HER. He loves her just as much as he loves the man.

God didn't make a women for the man to trample on her, and God saw how important it was for a man to have a lady to stand with her, the least he could to was treasure the gift of a good wife God gave to him.

Women are to use wisdom in honoring her husband too, for he knew the make-up in how he created men.

So both men and women are to honour one another. AMEN!

Men need to be built up in love-not pride, and sometimes, if the lady does not build her husband up in love, he tends to build himself up in pride, (especially if he is insecure about himself).

Sometimes men stand in  pride and bitterness towards the wife, instead of love for his wife with compassion.

Plus, some men do not really live for God and are not devoted to God and this can cause him to be mean too. A wicked heart spoils the family.

If men are to be a Godly leader the example of loving and serving should start at home.

Proverbs 16:6 By mercy and truth iniquity is purged: and by the fear of the LORD men depart from evil.

The Bible says Pride  cause him to fall. And God deals with men about their pride in many scriptures.

Psalm 59:12 For the sin of their mouth and the words of their lips let them even be taken in their pride: and for cursing and lying which they speak.

This is why a woman should honor her husband and make him feel important and stand by your man-- your spouse. And also, the women should be a Godly woman too, who really loves her husband.

Men of God you must have love flowing into your home in the Lord. Leading as a spirit-filled man to your family first, then to others. AMEN

Likewise, the man better be good to his wife and treat her with care or his prayers will not be answered!

So both have to be responsible for pleasing each other in honour, love, trust, caring, compassion and in the ONENESS of God. AMEN

Submitting to one another:

Ephesians 5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

1 Peter 5:5 Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.

So this means the men have to be humble too. AMEN

If the couples do not please each other in the Lord, they are not walking in love or in the Spirit of God. Anyone not walking in God, can't be loving and use the wisdom of God in love. When you are not sensitive the the Holy Spirit then your marriage can be messed up, and couples will end up not walking in the Spirit of ONENESS in God.

Men being too strict can also mess up the marriage. For this is bias to the wife. In order for the wife to feel ONE with the husband, he needs to 'loosen up' and be kind and even enjoy his wife and laugh sometimes. Not be just a serious 'fuddy duddy'.

Men tend to be too serious all the time and laughing with your wife more really would relieve the tensions


You would be surprised how much more you could enjoy your spouse to share those special fun moments together :)

Psalm 73:6Therefore pride compasseth them about as a chain; violence covereth them as a garment.

For the husbands who beat their wife, or are harsh with her. They need to repent, for the Bible does not support his actions in being cruel to his wife. AMEN!

Proverbs 8:13 The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.

Your wife is not your maid, she is a partner in marriage with you. She should be your best friend, and to be her best friend, you need to love her and be kind to her. It's not just about you. She is the other half of the ONE God gave you in marriage. So be the good and Godly loving man she wants. :)

Your wife hires a maid to help your family. Your wife is part of you. :)

It's not good to treat your wife as your maid either. Do not take advantage of that to just treat her like in such a way.

Show her more respect and honor, and God will bless you! It may improve your marriage too!

A man who beats his wife is liable for hell in God's eyes, for this is hate in his heart.Anger is not God anointed. Love is...

If you hate someone, you can not be forgiven by God when you are abusive.Unless you repent you will answer to God for the harm you cause.

You must make it right with God, in order to keep your own soul from hell.

Zechariah 8:17 And let none of you imagine evil in your hearts against his neighbour; and love no false oath: for all these are things that I hate, saith the LORD.

God will never give you permission to abuse your spouse, so you need to take heed if you think it's justifiable!

It says for the lady to submit to her own husband (This means to not be with other men), to be dedicated to her husband, adjust her life with him only.

BE ONE WITH HIM. For you are yoked together in the Lord in LOVE. Don't forget you made a vow to God  about one another :)

Women are not pitiful and do not need to act like pituful people. Women do not need to be treated pitiful either. God made you just as special as he made a man :) 

The Bible does not say to treat your wife like a slave. It does say to honor the wife. God loves both husband and wife the same. He has no respect of persons. AMEN

Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Col 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

The Bible says for men to love your wife as Christ loves the Church.

Tell me something... The way men do things today, many stand in pride and belittle their wives, do you think Christ does this to the Church? God forbid that we would think that!

To really love your wife would represent real love and compassion of Christ in a man.  And, the responsibility to reflect that to his wife in the ONENESS of God.

Like a shepherd who cared for the sheep to give his life for her. AMEN

Men, do you really devote your life and give your life for your wife?

Many men have failed their wives so much. They are not leading their family in humility and love, including his wife and kids.

Who is the Godly humble leader in your home?

God has seen carelessness, and unfaithfulness to God in homes, how you treat one another.

There should not be games. There should be peacemakers, forgivers, and bring joy to one another. Does that sound like your home?

Men have written their own doctrine about women.

Men who walk in pride thinking they are better than women, are not  following the Bible!

It's like their own PRIDE way of doing things on their own-- without God's approval.

So many women are tired of being mistreated, thinking they met this nice man of God, only to find out he is a total demon to her! That is not being ONE in God!

Thank God there are still Godly and descent men left who know how to treat a lady like Jesus did AMEN!

Some questions to think about seriously:

How can a man really care for his wife if he is treating her like a second class citizen and sometimes like an animal? Where in scripture is it said to be this way?

How can a man have honor for a wife, if he is putting her down?

If they are ONE and he puts her down, that means, his bad attitude puts himself down!

How can a man say he has the love of God in him if he is down grading his wife, gossiping about her, or  and making her feel like she has no say, or is worthless?

Yes, I am being truthful and real here in the sight of God!

Some men make their wife 'so low' with no honor. There is NO WAY a man like this, can be ONE with their wife in the Spirit of God.

What chance does she have to be ONE with this evil attitude?

So, men need to see what is really happening and not be too proud to admit they are acting bad. Do not allow pride to spoil your marriage.

 Pride attitude is a problem  in the Christian community, and around the world! It very abusive and bias! it's not of God and is happening worldwide!

I must be honest.. Men's doctrines and interpretations of the Bible shock me sometimes!

I do have to admit,  that I really admire a true humble man of God who gives his life for his wife, and takes good care of her, and his family. That is what God wants! He has Jesus' spirit!

When are men going to get back to the real teachings of the Bible and put away all this nonsense of pride?

No wonder the marriages fail so much! It reminds me or James Brown's old song, IT'S A MAN'S WORLD..

NOT! It's GOD'S WORLD. And we better be living right with our families!

We are ONE IN CHRIST BOTH MEN AND WOMEN... The body of Christ is a part of each other--whether you like it or not. AMEN

So we must change our attitude to love!

We need to really examine our hearts on this one...

I am happy to report that there are marriages where the husband and wife are friends, equally happy,  and love each other so much with the real devotion of God! AMEN

They walk in God and are ONE in Him. And that is where you find the most precious marriages.

They stay best friends for their whole life and grow in their love. AMEN

They live, eat, digest and stay with what the scripture is saying.

When they act bad mess up, they humble themselves and repent, whether it's the man or the woman.

Once they see the truth in scriptures--God convicts them of their mistake and they correct it, they say sorry, and both talk about it and forgive.

This is the way it should be.  This is a Godly marriage. :)

They are determined to live right by God and each other with great respect. Watching their own attitudes and keeping their love alive. AMEN

So it's our duties in the Body of Christ to be ONE in the Spirit, whether male or female.

It's our duty as the body of Christ to flow with love and compassion for one another. Not hurting or offending anyone. AMEN

Romans 8:10
And if Christ be in you, the body is dead because of sin; but the Spirit is life because of righteousness.

Romans 8:13
For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

The daughters of Zion

If you read Psalm 48:11, and Isa 4:4, you will read about a prostitute who hid the two men of God in the Old  Testament. She was honored for doing so.

God blessed this woman for her act of kindness. Though her life was not really right with God, the Lord looked on her heart of giving to His servants. :)

God blessed women everywhere in the Bible. God appoints her too in God's work, and God loves us so much!  Remember, God has no favorites. He loves us all the same!

Men did you know that, if you treat a lady with respect in marriage, that she will do anything for you? Unless she is sinful she will.

Ladies also are guilty of messing up and making mistakes and not being the wife they should.

In some of my other teachings I will touch on these areas too.

God made us all and loves us all, caring what happens All of us!


God sees it all: He sees all the good and bad that we do.

He also sees those ones full of love. Who will be rewarded and blessed!

Tell me something if Jesus came right now would you be guilty of loving your spouse or mistreating your spouse?

More questions to ponder...

If Jesus can respect women how come Christian men have problems with that?

If God was only for men, then why would he bother to make a woman, and why would Jesus show so much respect for women?

Jesus was so very humble and never acted in pride, like many men do today.

Each person will be accountable to God how they treat their spouse. AMEN

1 John 4:20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?

In today's society, men have made scriptures into their own man-made doctrines, having fallen out of scriptures in their teaching and attitude towards women of the Church.

The Word need to be re-taught to them again. The right way!

Men need courses on how to respect for women and treat her--as God intended.

When a man loves his wife God will use these humble men mightily too, because loving husbands are like Christ.

Think of this, Jesus never demanded that women serve him as a slave.

He always loved them and cared for the sheep. He had a servants heart.

So, if God made a lady to serve the man because of the sin of Adam, Jesus also became a servant for us. So if a man is to be like Christ,shouldn't he be a servant of all too?

God sent Esther to do His will, God used Ruth, and Deborah to defeat the enemy in battle for Israel. Deborah was a Judge and Prophetess in Judges 4:4 and Miriam the prophetess Exo. 15:20, Huldah the prophetess 2 Kings 22:14; 2 Chron 2:4, prophetess Noadiah Nehemiah 6:14, the prophetess in Isa 8:2-4, Prophetess Anna Luke 2:36.

I wish people could just get a glimpse of his Mighty Big, Powerful anointed Love that he has for us all equally. Such ETERNAL LOVE.

Even though I never went to heaven, and seen him there face to face. I know that His love is so massive and cannot be explained in human terms.

And folks, I feel God's presence around me all the time and not once has he treated me bad. I am a woman and He loves me so much too. AMEN

God does not just use men. He has powerful women in the lead for his kingdom too. AMEN. :)

'Son's of God' in the Bible refers to all the human race that walks in his Spirit. It's a plural term.

The reason people talk and say they don't believe a woman should preach is, because of the book of Corinthians.... And many are not knowledgeable of what happened back in the Church of Corinth. Women would get up and talk to other women across the Church and they had to hush them.

People today take this out of contents and think that it means a woman can't preach. But what it's really saying is that they woman needs to be quiet in Church, and ask her husband when they get home. Another words, not to talk and disrupt the service. For it hinders the move of God.

So knowing and learning history and the Bible is important, so it's not misinterpreted.

Another point I want to make about the Bible...

When God gave man instruction, or when the disciples taught the Word, it was not said in a negative way to hurt anyone or established to cause bias or prejudice.

It was written and instructions were given to the Church for edifying and to help us live a better life in Christ, and be closer to God.

God forbid that people can put others into a mold and label them something awful.

Women are the most abused people on earth and all who abuse them will pay for their actions on judgement day.

The Spirit lives within us, because we are the temple of the Holy Ghost. And when we meet other people who are also living in the Spirit, that we will connect and become one in Spirit.

It doesn't matter who it is. For that does not matter to God. It's doing His will, mission and purpose he sent us here for. That is what matters. And if you are married--that is your first calling of the family. So lead them in love!


Now go home and apologize to your spouse if you have done them wrong, and make it right with them. Start loving them in Jesus.

Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.

So his love never changes. He loves unconditionally and is devoted to loving us forever.

Spouses should be the same. Look at your own attitude and be honest with yourself. God help me to love him/her better!...

In order to stand as a couple in God and love each other right, we need AGAPE love. God's love...

It's good to know the deep things of God. Not many dig that deep.

Many people only scratch the surface and never know God in a deep way. Not putting anyone down--It's just truth!

Some can read a scripture or two and not even know the deep meanings of the WORD.

The Bible says in 2 Timothy 2:15
Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. Because many are lukewarm or they are not filled with the Holy Spirit since they believed. It has to be God to open their spiritual eyes.


I bet if you do, you will both get stronger in God you will get stronger together.

Marriages need revival too! :)

Genesis 5:2
Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.

Matthew 19:4-6 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

1 Corinthians 12:13
For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit.

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