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Marriage Advice

By Apostle Cathryn Ndyabagye

Romans 12:16
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.

Let's not be a stumbling block to our spouses, causing them to fall...

Romans 14:13
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way.

I want to show men and women this verse. If you know your bible and the history of the time during the Church of Corinth, you will know that during that time, when the scriptures were written, Paul was dealing with how men and women behaved in the Church.
Women used to talk across the Church to each other and it was very disrupting to the service. This is one of the reasons he said for women to be silent in the Church.

That is the reason Paul said to ask your husband when you get home. To not talk in Church.

Ephesians 5:21-30
21Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

I love what paul says in this scripture:

Showing that men and women need each other...

1 Corinthians 11:11 AMP
Nevertheless, in [the plan of] the Lord and from His point of view woman is not apart from and independent of man, nor is man aloof from and independent of woman;

So, just because you go through hard times, does not give any spouse the right to leave their spouse, or to cheat or treat each other bad either.

There is no excuse for sin when you are required to be ONE TOGETHER. AMEN Don't be abusive or neglectful of who God gives you. YOUR SPOUSE.

Love and faithfulness is a must if you want a marriage to work.

It takes two to make a marriage beautiful in God. Mutual respect--mutual giving.

Once you get married, it does not mean it's time to stop giving. We have to give completely all the time in marriage. That is the only way it works.

Giving always keeps your marriage fresh and strong, God surely knows that if the giving stops the fire goes out, and God never quits on his bride but keeps loving her and we need to never quit and keep loving our spouse. AMEN


If Jesus never leaves nor forsakes us then why should spouses?

When love stops--many sins can enter, because people are not giving to their spouses like they should.

If you neglect your spouse you are slacking in your responsibility to him/her. And this is disobeying God. AMEN

Any woman, or any man that thinks they have all the answers, or becomes prideful and can't consider what each other says, becomes jealous,  possessive and mean in their relationship, is not walking, or acting right in the Lord. That is the flesh and if you allow it to go on in your relationship it will destroy your love.

If couples can't keep growing in love and their relationship, and lose their patience, and start fighting all the time, then they are not obeying the Lord.

The Word says, Love is not selfish. Love does not demand it's own way. Love is patient and kind.

So when we have a spouse, we have to think of them before ourselves. This means both men and women.

Men have a wrong mindset thinking only the women are the givers. But don't you dare stand in pride like this and think that you do not have to give and please her or God will see you are being lazy and not being the husband to your wife!

It takes love to keep your relationship bonded. AMEN And both have to work on that relationship to keep it precious before God. AMEN

Men and woman are not better than each other. Yet God made the man a leader, YES HE DID. And to be a good leader to your wife, you have to be a good example of love and kindness such as Jesus was.

For if a Godly man is going to follow in the footsteps of Jesus, will he not be like Jesus in his character?

If men run on ego, they do not act like Christ. Jesus didn't pride himself against any woman like that.

Jesus was not a prideful person throwing his power around in his ego--thinking he was better than everyone.

Jesus was full of love, compassionate and giving. So should a husband be.

If a man has to use his pride and ego to overcome a woman, he has walked out of God's will. Because this is when hurtfulness is exercised, abuse comes in, and God does not like this at all!

Abuse is something the devil likes you to do, not God... So men are accountable how they lead. And don't think God is not watching. We all are accountable how we treat our spouse.

Tons of men who mistreat their wives are not going to heaven when Jesus comes! Same with the ladies who do not treat their husband right too!

A woman is responsible to love her husband and children to work together with her husband. Not to nag and upset him and do things to irritate him. Not just use him to get material things either!

Kick all sin and the devil out the door and keep your marriage in the Love of the Lord and never allow anything or anyone to mar your relationship!

Women should not be selfish . Yet, if she has a need, and her husband is not willing to help her, or hear her, this is bad for the man to treat her as such.

Each spouse's needs are important and you both should show more care and concern for one another and do not brush them off as 'NOT IMPORTANT'. You are cheating each other out of love.

When a man's pride is so big that he only sees that his own needs are met in bed, and doesn't bother to please his wife, he has proven to not be the best husband. He is guilty of neglecting his wife's needs.


This affects your relationship and can have a lot to do with why your wife is not happy with you.

He is not caring to be sensitive to the wife. You have to show her love too.

And if a wife is angry or upset, men need to listen and carefully. Because some of these problems can stem from something you are neglecting to do. Not always, but many times.

Most women are content when a husband is very observant, caring, honors her, and close to his wife and pleases her.

If a husband is having a problem with his wife. Instead of putting her down, and making her feel dumb--be patient enough to take the time to find out why she is upset--show concern, not irritation!

By doing this you will possibly be able to find something you are doing that you have overlooked.

Don't just assume--find out. Know what is happening and help your wife in solving the problems. If you caused it, make it right with her.

Don't allow your stubbornness to steal your wife's blessing--just say you are sorry! A man who can't say he is sorry is a rebel in God's eyes.

Once you make things right and get close to her, she won't be mad anymore.

It's very simple to solve if you try, and not be lazy to meet each others needs. :)

Make it right and bring peace to your relationship again. And let the wife keep the mind of Christ also.

If both spouses would concentrate on being more like Christ, they would treat each other right in marriage. Plain and simple! They would want to meet each others needs all the time and never stop.

Selfishness and stubbornness are what stop blessings in marriage!

Once you kick pride out the door then you can solve many of your problems!

Women are not men's slave--They are your other half--Part of you.

So if you mistreat her you are bringing shame to yourself in God.

A wife is closer than a sister, a lover, a best friend. So, men, you need to remember that she is a gift God gave to you so treat her with respect!

A man should be closer than a brother to his wife too, a lover and best friend. 

His role is to protect the wife and love her, giving his life for her. That is what Jesus did for his bride!

Both loving and giving to each other. Then, a man will be doing the right thing, leading as the head not only in work, support, but in the Love of the Lord too.

Being the  head of the woman, means to care about the bride in right ways--by offering her the best of his life and leadership in love. AMEN

Proverbs 12:4
A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

So what it boils down to, is both spouses have to watch their own behavior and actions and be responsible for themselves--for their love for each other.

Keep the foundation of the marriage in the Lord without sin, then you will be on the right track. Keep your marriage based on love.

There is nothing worse than an angry woman. Well, a mad man is not too pleasant either when he is mean and grumpy :)

So, try to not anger one another, or get each other mad. Be responsible and meet each others needs, and then you will be happy with each other.

Don't quit making each other happy! Don't stop trying! If you stop, weakness will come to your relationship.

Yes, marriage does takes a lot of work. That is just how marriage is.

When a spouse gets tired and lazy the marriage will lag too. You make it suffer when you become lazy.

God never wants us to get lukewarm, and that goes for marriage too...  

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