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No Bondage in Marriage!

By Apostle Cathryn Ndyabagye

Jesus and the apostles taught about marriage in the Bible. Jesus taught marriage and the consequences of messing it up. For instance, Jesus knows the heart of man and so he knew that even looking at a woman with lust, that he commits adultery in his heart.

He told how, if a man divorces his wife for another woman, that  he commits adultery. Jesus taught the Word to people so they would get closer to God and not sin. He never wants us to have sin or bondage in our marriage. Jesus also made it clear that  you can divorce because of fornication.  You know why? He knows the importance of keeping vows and He knows what breaks them. So God does not want us to live in bondage. AMEN!

When the apostles taught about marriage, they taught both roles of the husband and the wife, not to sound negative or put down either one, or cause any bias or prejudice against each other. And they surely didn't make these rules to degrade a wife--like in todays society.

They just set the foundation for how a marriage should be in the Lord. It was so that the marriage would be understood by both the husband and the wife of their responsibilty to each other, and devotion that each spouse should have to one another in God.

The Bible never teaches the spouses in marriage to cause bondage or put each other in bondage. But today you see many couples who are in bondage because of pride, unrighteousness, and many other bondages that God never ordained.

God wants us to have a blessed relationship. To be built up in the faith,  To be best friends and to grow in the freedom and liberty He gave to each of us. Surely the Bible would not teach us to be evil to each other, or to dominate so that we make each other miserable. AMEN

The way many Churches teach today;I wonder if they even follow the word. :) Like some places Christians teach that a woman is basically a second classed citizen, and has no say in anything. This is so unscriptural. If you notice, women were very active and had a say in the ministry a lot throughout the Bible. Today, many women are put down and their freedom and liberty God gave to them are taken away in Churches.  God didn't make a woman to be a nobody...

God doesn't want you to be a nobody. God takes nobodies and makes them a somebody in Him.  

 The Spirit of God does not enslave us, to be bound with a negative relationships. He wants us to have a great and healthy relationship. Solid like we have in Jesus. Aren't we supposed to be like Jesus anyway? Isn't love supposed to flow between Jesus and us? Isn't the love of Jesus supposed to flow between the spouses and their families too? There should not bondage in marriage either. AMEN!  The Holy Spirit sets us free. We are not bound in bondage anymore, we all have liberty now.

In love, the yoke God gave to union is marriage is not one of bondage as you would suppose. A yoke of union in marriage is that of partnership and a team that walks together, does everything together in the love of God. Just like a team of oxen--they are an equal team together.

When we get married, we should be free to be ourselves, and be good happy partners together. Like doves (who cuddle and love each other). Who are always sweet and gentle. AMEN Yes we can experience hard times too but we can know the good and Godly ways to build each other up and overcome the hard times together in prayer. AMEN

Men and Women are very precious to God and many are: Leaders, teachers, preachers, bishops, singers, nurses, whatever their role, God gave them they have precious talent when they use it for God. They need to be respected--God created each one. As long as these roles are done in God's love and they are reflecting Christ, then they are living right by God and not putting people into bondage.

Some societies think that controlling people is a righteous thing. Shepherds for instance, think they control the flock. They actually are supposed to guide them and love them. Feed them and nourish them. Not bombard them with dictatorship. It's all in the attidude. And God sees each heart.

I get very tired of seeing and hear "so-called" men of God, who are so arrogant, big headed, who let their ego blow get so puffed up in pride--thinking they are BETTER THAN WOMEN. And spend too much time  belittling women, and degrading them. Because this is not the mind of Christ. Jesus didn't teach us to behave in this manner. Jesus always taught, Mark 9:35 And he sat down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to be first, the same shall be last of all, and servant of all.

and in Mark 10:44 And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all.

Who can argue with the Bible on that one? 

I would love to have a nice talk with the man who came who started man thinking that they are better than women.  I believe the devil had something to do with this. For it has spread far and wide in a very bias and prejudiceness way around the world. Do you really think this was God's plan? GOD FORBID! 

The Bible says in Proverbs 6:16-20 These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

So men are not better than women. They may be stronger in some ways yet, they must be more leaders to understand their spouse and be strong enough in God to love her right and not mistreat her. AMEN

I know God, doesn't care if you are male or female. The Bible says that when Jesus comes we will be like him.This means both ladies and men. For we will be ONE SPIRIT.

1 John 3:1-31Behold, what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God: therefore the world knoweth us not, because it knew him not. 2Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 3And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.


God never said only men would go when Jesus comes, and the women would stay behind!  So let us stop trying to be puffed up in pride and be real to God and our marriages. Let love flow instead of pride. AMEN

Many problems start, when people are satisfied with the ways of this world. They have a special idea, or their own doctrines to follow, and it has nothing to do with the way Jesus taught in the Word. He gave us complete instructions in the gospels on how we should be, treat people and love others as we love ourselves.

 

To be honest, people would rather follow what people say or do, than what God shows you to do. People would rather make up their own theories and opinions that sometimes hurts one another. There is no trut in this to God. It's time we stand up for truth of the Word.

Where is the love in Christian marriages today. Are you living in bondage? Yes, I know truth hurts, and it's healing at the same time if you allow it to fill your minds and hearts. AMEN Honestly, I would rather have Truth of the Lord and the Word of God to live by than than the philosophies of men! AMEN People will always fail you--and God never will. So in God he never dishes out bondage to you! Always freedom and liberty to be the best US we can b --transformed in JESUS.

Peter mentions in Acts 5:29, he said, We ought to obey God rather than men.

That is what Jesus taught too. God wants us to be obedient to God and love for God with all our souls and mind first and to love each other, as we love ourselves. Jesus said these were the greatest commandments.

So when a couple marries, shouldn't they have great love for one another also? Not causing great bondage for spouses or to be careless towards them! Doesn't this go against what Jesus taught us? Jesus doesn't want us putting bondage on each other, or limitations. We should be free in God. AMEN

Love is about being able to express freely, love deeply, care and have compassion. Not setting limitations on each--to not be free. We should not control each other, we should be sharing with one another and stand together with great understanding. Isn't this more reasonable in the Lord?

I remember a man who came up against me in an African country, screamed at me, belittled me as a women, ordering me around like I am was a nobody because I was a woman. I saw his great pride in himself and saw evil. I did respect his position but I didn't respect his abuse. I set him straight by sharing the love and kindness of God.

This man was so hard and cold, he reminded me of Satan. He didn't have the mind of Christ at all. As I sat there, I thought of how gentle Jesus is to me.

I thought to myself, How come many men do this to women? How come they can't show respect like Jesus did? How can women feel ONE with a men who treat them so bad?

I wonder how God feels to see these type of arrogant men, who don't feel they can be ONE in the Lord with women? I guess they will find out when they stand before God and remember all the times they mistreated a woman. God will allow them to see every time too!

Let's all be ONE together in Christ! Oh that God will bring ONENESS in the Body of Christ in Love!

If any place needs to be the foundation for love to reign, it's in our homes. Love should be strong in our families.

The Bible says we are all ONE Body. So if man thinks himself too highly than he ought to his wife-- isn't that going against what the Bible teaches? We are to honor one another. We are to respect, and think highly of each other rather than ourselves. Are we not all servants of God? A servants heart right?

Romans 12:3 King James Bible says,"For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think [of himself] more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith".

Want to be treated like a KING? Treat your wife as a QUEEN.   Want to be treated as a QUEEN? Treat your husband as a KING!

The King can't be a King without a Queen, and the Queen can't be a Queen without a King. So it's something you both have to be together in.

Men shouldn't ever belittle his wife. He should treat her like a queen, a best friend, partner, lover and be a pleaser to her, really care about her and her needs too, just as he pleases himself--he should please her.

Being high-minded, and prideful always makes a man look ugly. Like he has no balance or love. Husbands are supposed to enjoy their wife not order them around. If a man can think about how Jesus acted and treated women, and try to be like Jesus they would be better husbands. AMEN!

Psalm 131: 1 says, Lord, my heart is not haughty, nor mine eyes lofty: neither do I exercise myself in great matters, or in things too high for me.

Proverbs 18:12 says Before destruction the heart of man is haughty, and before honour is humility.

You don't want your household to seem like a fast-food place where the boss is ordering everyone around: Do this for me, that for me and being mean to everyone... If you do not show your marriage respect with love and kindness, then you have lost the whole idea being a leader, or part of a marriage. And you can defeat the marriage purpose if you do not treat it with care and love. How are you nourishing your marriage? Asking someone is much more respectable than ordering them to do something.

We should go into marriage regarding both husband and wife, not just thinking that the marriage is only about the husband. If you go into a marriage like that, the marriage will end up sour. The marriage is for both the husband and the wife. The two make one. Without one there is not the other.

Love is a choice, and if you both learn to give in love, and not just expect, the love will blend between the two of you.

If you are both givers of love, then the love between you has a chance. Without both giving, and never giving up you can have a wonderful marriage without bondage. AMEN

Problems come when there is a demanding spirit of: a 'give me!' 'do this!' 'My way is the only way!' 'I expect you to be this way!' 'I boss you!' 'I order you!', "submit" The bible says that love does not demand it's own way.

God wants to transform this worldly doctrine back to the Bible-- to turn this around. If men changed in respecting women better as Jesus wants them to, and learns to say, 'what can I do for you?' 'Do you need anything?' 'Can I help you with this?'

This is the type of spirit and love God wants you to have. We don't need to be bossy and nagging. This goes for both men and women in marriage!

Couples need to all start having a servant's heart and release this bondage that you put on each other. AMEN Serve each other and make one another happy!

Jesus said in Mark 10:44 And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all.

Loose the chains that bind your marriage. Break the chains of the traditions that bring bondage to your spouse. May the freedom of Jesus come with love and servanthood to you both. May you experience a deeper love in Jesus and be free to be happy!

Matthew 16:19 And I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.

Let us allow God to transform the marriage and loose ourselves from any bondage and set our marriages free to be at liberty and be used of God mightily in the ONENESS of God together!

Maturing together in the love of God is a must in marriage.

The Bible says in 1 Corintians 13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

Let us put away childish behavior in marriage and take our servanthood serious in Jesus, and make our spouses happy! Being obedient to the word of God.   It's the only way to please God!

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